Question for Readers: She Said / He said
Now a question for readers:
What advice would you give men and women for avoiding getting into a she said / he said situation?
What advice would you give men and women for avoiding getting into a she said / he said situation?
posted by Tom Blake | 8:30 PM
1 Comments:
Reader comments here at Sense being quite low right now, I won't take the lack of response to this question as a sign of particular disinterest. For what it's worth, here's my advice.
Start by respecting yourself and those with whom you socialize and work. Recognize if there is a power aspect to each relationship, an aspect that gives one person more say over the goal realizations of the other. Power aspects can exist in non-work relationships as well as in work situations. If you have the power, don't abuse it, and judge extra carefully whether encouragement from the other person is legitimate, erring on the side of suspicion.
If you are in the subordinate role, respect yourself and your superior enough to send the early clear message of non-encouragement. If you are in either role and are interested in the other peson, but there is no sign of reciprocity, give it a rest. If the interest does seem mutual, go with it, but try to eliminate or minimalize the power aspects of the relationship, for example, in a workplace situation, by transferring.
When in doubt as to whether there is a power aspect to a relationship, consider that in our society men are more often perceived in the power position. Men should exercise extra effort to treat women with respect, but women should exercise extra effort to obtain the respect they deserve.
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